Activities to uncover your anger
- How have you avoided dealing with anger?
- Have you faced your anger?
- Are you afraid to expose your shame or guilt?
- Has your anger affected your faith?, your health?, your prayers?
- Have you been obsessed with the injury or the offender?
- Do you compare your situation with that of the offender?
- Has the injury caused a permanent change in your life?
- Has the injury changed your outlook on life?
Activities to help us decide to forgive
- A change of heart / conversion / new insights that what you have been doing hasn’t worked.
- Entertain the thought that forgiveness is the solution.
- Make a commitment to God to forgive the offender.
Activities to help us process our forgiveness
- Reframing, through role-taking, who the wrongdoer is by viewing him or her in context.
- Seek empathy and compassion toward the offender.
- Ask God to assist, making sure you really want to forgive.
- Pray for your offender – use their name.
- Bear / accept the pain.
- Release your thoughts from the injury for longer blocks of time.
- Speak to others in a kindly manner about the person who has done you an injustice.
- Give a moral gift to the offender.
Activities to release us from emotional prison
- Find meaning in the suffering and forgiveness process.
- Realize that you need God’s forgiveness and the forgiveness of others too, and that God has amply forgiven you.
- Discover you are not alone in this.
- Realize that you may have a new purpose in life because of the injury.
- Become aware of the decreased negative affect and increased positive affect. Applies particularly to the injurer but also for our own internal, emotional release.